Divorce your mother-in-law

Was watching 'The Gill Deacon show" on TV and an interesting topic came up on the show, "Divorce your mother-in-law". On the show, Relationship counselor Owen Williams said, "The only woman a man needs to divorce is his mother"..hmm interesting..he goes on to talk about the typical 'soft' man who was always caught inbetween his wife and his mom, trying to please both parties and ending up being an angry man as he can't please both. He also brings up certain points on how to deal with the wife-husband-mother in law realtionship :

The no. 1 most important point:
1. Forming an allies with your wife
both husband and wife needs to talk about the value that BOTH of them wanted and valued in THEIR OWN family, that they both form now and be able to bring that point across to the mother

2. Talk about why certain things that need to be done is important
If things such as dinner at the in-law's place every weekend is important or having to travel 200 miles across to spend x'mas at nanny's place is important, talk about it and let each other know why it is important. Each partner will have to respect what are the things that each other feel is important and try to stay in tune with the feeling of your partners.

3. Discuss and don't presume and EXPECT that things are suppose to be done in certain way or should/shouldn't be done in certain way
We all come from different family background, upbringing, what and how things are done in one family does not mean it is done the same way in the other family. Talk about how things are done, if necessary, modify, compromise & discuss how it will be done in YOUR OWN family that you both now form.

When the host Gill asked, "so who owns the largest responsibility here (in this 3 legged relationship)?" which Owen William replies, 'Its the man, he has to learn to stand up and be ready to face confrontation and conflict" Finally, a man who speaks up for the woman!

I do admit that having a man who is able to 'divorce' from his mother, is very attractive. Attractive in a sense that it shows that he has his own opinions, and is ready to lead, share and shoulder that responsibility of making decisions to take care of his own family; that he now forms with his partner (it's a union of husband and wife, the beginning of THEIR life, isn't it?) and last but not least, when a man promises something to his wife and vice versa, they should always honour their words..If you said you will do it, make sure you will (and try not to have a short memory on things you promised, for the other partner might not have such a short memory...)


Cheerios and keep smiling!
With Love from PoohBear